Families
Posted by Lisa on January 26, 2007
In our situation, there are 2 types of families: the supportive family, and the family in denial.
The supportive family believes us, cares for us, tries to understand and tries to help, even if it was a family member that abused us.
The unsupportive family is a tree of many different branches. Some members don’t, can’t believe it happened. Some members deny the abuse, even though they may have witnessed it, been apart of it, or even been abused themselves. Some perpetuate the abuse. Some call us liars. Some are still abusive to us. Some still try to control us.
Some of us have to break all ties with our family, and its often the hardest thing we have to do.
How are things in your family? How do you deal with it?
Roma said
My family denies the abuse for the most part I had broken all ties with them for about a year and it broke their hearts, so I met with my mother and basically laid down the law and the truth she now believes the sexual abuse I endured from my uncle and brother I chose not to tell her about my father as they are both elderly and I know her well enough that she would have killed him because she already hates him and of course the physical abuse I endured from her wasnt all that bad in her eyes but I have a set of bounderies in place now she no longer just shows up to my house if she wants to see me she calls and asks not demands and actually its not so bad now I know she will never fess up to what she did to me I have delt with that in empty chair work and as far as my father goes I am never alone in a room with him or my brother and my daughter is NEVER over to there house without me
lost and alone said
I am a 35 year old women I was molested as a child by an uncle. I recently told my parents, sisters and grandmother , at first they told me they believed me but when they confronted him and he denied it, now they believe him and they turned their backs on me and continue accepting him in the family like if nothing happened. I had to cut my family out of my life because I can’t understand how can they believe him and continue accepting him and turn their backs on my? I feel so betrayed by my family and i feel so alone and I can’t make sense of all this. I finally got the courage to speak about being molested and my family turned their backs on me.