One good lie requires another.
Growing up, we have to learn to lie in order to survive. We have to lie to our families, we lied to our friends, we lied to our neighbors. If we didn’t lie to protect the abuser and his/her actions, who knows what would have happened to us.
One good lie – the lie the abuser told us to manipulate us -
requires another – the lies we had to tell to survive; the lies the abuser told us to get away with abusing us; the lies that we told ourselves to convince us we were ok.
Lying becomes such an integral part of our lives. Each lie we tell becomes easier, and we become more comfortable doing it.
When we are finally able to speak our truth, and uncover the lies, there is so much relief, and so much weight lifted off our shoulders.
Are you still lying about the abuse? Are you still making up stories so that you don’t have to face the truth? Or are you free of the lies? Are you practicing honesty? Do you feel its easy to slip back into the old patterns of lying? How do you escape those patterns?
