Who we are
Posted by Lisa on January 11, 2007
It’s easy to get caught up in what we do for a living as being who we are. I am a doctor. I am a garbage collector. I am a lawyer. I am a street sweeper.
Just as easy, it is easy to get caught up in defining ourselves as being victims – survivors of abuse. We often use this to identify ourselves, define ourselves, and it becomes who we are.
The truth is, however, it is only a part of who we are. The abuse formed many of our ideals about life. Many of us are breaking through some of those ideals. We are finding who we are despite the abuse.
We are funny. We are creative. We are poetic. We are sensitive. We are loving. We are logical. We are smart. We are tenacious. We are artistic. We are sarcastic. We are curious. We are beautiful. We are so many things.
Besides being a survivor, besides having a job or a career, who are you?
Amy said
I am me!!!!! Funny, smart, kind, forgiving, caring, sarcastic, quick witted and all-around loving!! Those are things that I have always been and I refused to let anyone take them from me. I determine who I am and I have decided that I am me and I like who I am!!!!!
Roma said
I am a precious, worthwhile, fallable child of God; who deserves to take up time and space on this planet!!!
Eshanya said
I am Eshanya Amour W.,
I am a trust worthy, honest, woman,
I am a woman of tremendous streangth, and value.
I am blunt, and opionated.
I am a voice
I am a advocate
I am a mother
I am a loveing person
I am a person of deep thoughts and emotions
I am a friend
I am a provider of compasion
I AM ME, MYSELF, ESHANYA, SURVIVOR!
Kimberly Rae Rohrer said
I am one and many. I am Kim,Kimbie, K.Rae, Kimberly,Baby Girl,Ophelia, and Clover and Persephone ! And I am a walking miracle ! I am an example of the wonder of the mind’s resourses to protect itself ! All my life I broke off the section of experience and time period that hurt and put it away in a corner of my soul. 18 years ago Kimbie escaped and since then I have been putting my pieces back together to build one whole, complete person! I found out for sure 2 days ago that Kimbie the first and most troubling of my pieces is now safely tucked into the core and at peace !
I’m very happy about her integration but also feel a small sense of loss. Is that wierd ? We Survivors are all walking miracles ! KIM-c.o.o.( Chief Operating Oversoul)
melanie said
I am lucky. I am kind. I am an aunt. I am a lover of animals. I am perfectly willing to back up traffic for miles to keep from hitting a gull. I am lucky. I am brave. I am smart. I am capable of loosing everything that someone can take away from me, walking away, and within a few years I’ll have more than ever. I am lucky. I am blessed to know the secret- that the only things in life that you can’t live without are the things no one can take away from you, you can only take away from yourself.
christina said
I am a mother, a friend, I work hard and sometimes I feel I am nowhere. I lived with my fathers abuse all my childhood. Now it is hard for me to find a realtionship that is what it should be. Not fear, hurt, harm, rejection, belittling, abusesive because those where what the things placed in my from age 5. I am a strong, kind, loving person, but that also means I get walked on too. I need to find my balance again. I was doing so well in my mental life until my father confieded in me that he was being investigated for molesting other children. The only thing that kept running through my mind was how dare you. I gave you your freedom the ability to have a life and you do it again after seeing how messed up I am. How dare you to look me in the face and say so calmly I think I am gonna go to jail this time. My anger is at a rage and my dreams are horrifing. My mind is so stressed from all that I have overcome to again feel like the 14 year old that ran from him. I know that God has protected me and brought me to where I am in life today. I am thankful to still be alive and to be blessed with my own children who are almost grown. My strength lay deep in my soul and no one can ever take that. My fear lay under my skin and what scares me the most is the hate I feel all over again.